Everyone Deserves a Friend

Sammie Vance builds benches to help people connect when they need a buddy.

As you read, ask yourself: Why might someone who is feeling down have a hard time reaching out?

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Sammie sits on one of the buddy benches that her organization helped build.

Sammie Vance can remember feeling lonely. She was in second grade at Haley Elementary School in Fort Wayne, Indiana. When she saw kids playing during recess, she felt nervous and anxious about asking if she could join in. “I definitely struggled with going up to someone and asking them to play,” she says. “For me and a lot of kids, it’s difficult to do.”

That summer at camp, Sammie saw a video about young people who had installed something called a buddy bench at their school. Buddy benches are special benches designed to help kids communicate when they want someone to play with or talk to. By sitting on a buddy bench, a person can signal that they need a friend, all without saying a word.

Something clicked for Sammie. “The idea resonated with me a lot,” she says. “I wanted to get a buddy bench for my school.”

Sammie started researching whether a bench could be bought locally. She found an Indiana-based company that could make benches from recycled plastic. Sammie loved the idea of a project that combined recycling, community action, and forging friendships. She decided to collect bottle caps that could be recycled into a bench.

Today three buddy benches sit on the grounds of Sammie’s old school. Sammie, now 16, helps others—both kids and adults—navigate the process of installing their own buddy benches. In the past eight years, she has helped build more than 650 benches in the U.S. and other countries, from Mexico to Ghana.   

Sammie's Buddy Bench Project
Watch a video to hear from Sammie about her Kindness Campaign.

Buddy Bench Benefits

The concept of buddy benches originated in Europe as part of an effort to build empathy among young people. The benches are found on playgrounds and in parks around the world. Buddy benches, also called friendship benches, are designed to promote connection and kindness.

Research suggests young people these days could use some extra kindness. According to a study published in 2021, adolescents from 37 countries reported increased feelings of loneliness at school between 2012 and 2018.

But having a place to connect with others can make people feel less isolated. Another study found that when a buddy bench was added to a school playground, the number of kids who played alone at recess fell by nearly a quarter.

Sammie thought that installing a buddy bench on her school playground could do a lot of good for her school community. “It would help me and in turn help many other kids as well,” she says. “I knew I wasn’t alone in being lonely.”

Buddy benches aren’t just good for those who are looking for a friend. Kids who reach out to someone sitting on the bench can benefit too. Research shows that doing things for others can help boost mood, reduce stress, and improve both physical and mental health. “You don’t know what your small acts of kindness really do to this world,” says Sammie. “It is so beautiful. It’s a huge chain reaction.”

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Sammie at the manufacturing plant that makes the benches out of recycled plastic

Built With Bottle Caps

When Sammie set out to make her first buddy bench, she reached out to the company Green Tree Plastics. It uses recycled plastic to manufacture structures like picnic tables. The company agreed to make a buddy bench. Sammie next met with her school’s principal to ask whether the school could put a bench on school grounds. When he said yes, Sammie started collecting.

It takes about 400 pounds of plastic bottle caps for one bench. A typical bottle cap weighs about 2.2 grams. That meant Sammie would need 82,474 caps to create a single bench.

Sammie started saving the caps from her bottled drinks, stashing them in her pants pockets throughout the day and then storing them in her garage and basement. But she knew she couldn’t reach her goal alone. So Sammie set up a collection site at school and asked neighborhood coffee shops if they’d collect caps too. A local baseball team pitched in by gathering bottle caps during games. Making the recycled benches can cost up to $900, so Sammie also held fundraisers and received donations.

Within three months, Sammie had collected more than 1,200 pounds of bottle caps—enough for three buddy benches. They were installed at her school’s playground and entrance. Sammie also had bottle caps left over to donate to other schools that wanted to follow her lead and make their own benches. She started working with schools and other groups interested in installing buddy benches. She founded a nonprofit organization, called Sammie’s Buddy Bench Project, and created a website to help spread the word about her mission.

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Sammie collected caps in bins at her elementary school.

Inspiring Others

Eventually, Sammie partnered with a company called Polywood to help reduce the price of the buddy benches. Interested individuals or groups can now collect 1,000 pieces of number 2 plastic, send them to a local recycling facility, and document the process with photos or video. Sending the images to Polywood earns them a coupon that brings down the cost of a bench to $400. The company ships the bench for free.

Since Sammie started her project eight years ago, she has helped colleges, libraries, retirement homes, and hospitals collect enough caps to build hundreds of benches. The response has been overwhelmingly positive. “I’ve gotten letters from all over the world,” she says. “They’re all so meaningful.” Some of them even say, “I met my best friend on a buddy bench.”

For young people looking to start their own projects, Sammie’s advice is to start small. “My project started with one cap,” she says. As Sammie continues to help install buddy benches, she plans to keep reaching out to anyone who needs a friend. “I hope to just spread kindness wherever I go,” she says.

Heidi Vance

It takes more than 82,000 caps to make one bench!

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