So when do you know it’s time to tell someone? And how can you judge the difference between a friend who’s having a bad day—and one who plans to harm herself or others?
The answer: Trust your gut. In other words, when you get that sick feeling in your stomach, pay attention to it. “If you’re feeling concerned, there’s probably a good reason for it,” says Lucie Hemmen, a psychologist in Santa Cruz, California. “Use your concern as the evidence you need to take action.”
That’s what Natalia Szurawski did. The 17-year-old was in the midst of a Halloween party at her Danbury, Connecticut, home in October 2014, when a friend asked if they could talk privately. Once they were alone, Natalia’s friend confessed that she didn’t want to live anymore and pulled up her sleeves to reveal shallow cuts on her wrists.