How Can This Help?
Young people often have a difficult time recognizing conflict before it evolves into verbal abuse or bullying. Through strategic role-play and preparation, this activity will provide students with the key social-emotional learning tools they need to effectively communicate one side of an argument, as well as the motivation to empathize with the other.
What You’ll Need:
Demonstrate strategies to prevent, manage, or resolve interpersonal conflicts without harming self or others (NHES 4)
1. Read & Discuss. Distribute copies of the Choices article, How to Fight Fair. Students can certainly read independently, but this feature is designed to be interactive. Use these pause-and-reflect questions to guide class discussion:
- After reading the introduction on p. 13, ask:
How does conflict help us grow?
(Answer: It challenges us to see someone else's point of view.)
- After reading FIGHT STYLE under Common Clash 1 on p. 14, ask:
Why is the silent treatment an ineffective way to resolve a conflict?
(Possible answer: You're not actually addressing the problem, so nothing will be resolved.)
- After reading each Common Clash scenario, ask:
What is the problem that needs to be solved here?
(Answers will vary, but the point is to highlight that each conflict is about solving a problem or disagreement--that both people should invest in overcoming. You can also point out that Amy, Sam, and Sophie should each have a "goal"--whether that's more of Willow's attention, a more reasonable curfew, or more playing time.)