For some, the magic of the holiday season lies in picking out the perfect presents to give loved ones. But for others, winter means gift-giving stress. A Gallup poll shows that in 2024, Americans planned to spend an average of $1,012 on holiday gifts. And while teens certainly aren’t expected to spend that much, you might still worry about finding the perfect presents for your family—and even for your friends. Does exchanging holiday gifts with friends show you care? Or does it put unnecessary pressure on friendships to spend money or time on each other? What do you think? Should friends exchange holiday gifts?
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Should Friends Exchange Holiday Gifts?
Yes
Every December, I start a gift exchange group chat for my friends. Together, we vote on a budget, and participants can leave if they want to without feeling pressure. For me, giving holiday gifts has never been about the money. Presents can be as simple as a handmade bracelet, stickers, or candy. The gift I hold dearest is a card filled with memories that my friend gave me in eighth grade. That card taught me that gifts don’t have to be expensive—they just have to show you care. You don’t have to spend money on chocolates that will expire or a scarf that will be worn once. It’s about dedicating your time and energy to something thoughtful. That’s why friends should exchange holiday gifts—however big or small.
—Prisha Tiwari, 11th-grader from New Jersey
No
If a friend gives you a holiday gift, you’ll want to give an amazing present in return. But giving gifts can be very time-consuming, especially with teens already having to dedicate much of their time to homework, extracurriculars, and jobs. Those busy days leave little time for shopping. Even teens who do have the time to buy gifts are often severely limited by cost. Fortunately, there are many other ways for teens to show they care about each other. Last holiday season, my friends and I went to a park after school to hang out, and some brought home-baked sweets to share. Activities like this are a great way to show your friends you care during the holidays without the burden of formal gift-giving.
—Zachary Abbey, 9th-grader from California
Should friends exchange holiday gifts?
Should friends exchange holiday gifts?
Should friends exchange holiday gifts?