Dancing Free

Jamie, 14 wants to change the way people think about boys in ballet.

Photography by MICHAEL STARGHILL

Jamie starts each day with ballet class.

When Jamie Whitley was 6, he saw a professional ballet production for the first time. He’d been taking ballet classes since he was 3, but he’d always been the only boy in class. Sometimes he got teased for doing what some people consider a girls’ activity. But as he watched a famous ballet called Don Quixote, Jamie saw male dancers leaping and spinning across the stage. “The dancers were very masculine,” he remembers. “I realized that the stereotype of male dancers having to be feminine wasn’t true. I knew I wanted to dance professionally.”

Today the 14-year-old dances full-time in a professional ballet program and often performs with Houston Ballet, the company that inspired him. But it hasn’t been an easy journey. Over the years, he’s experienced severe bullying for being a dancer, and he eventually left school to be homeschooled. But his passion for dance has kept him going. Now in addition to his own training, he helps teach ballet to younger boys. He hopes to show them that they’re not alone. “I love seeing them smile and be happy,” he says. “For me, dance is freeing.” Read on for more of Jamie’s story.

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Jamie with classmates at Houston Ballet Academy

Finding His Footing

Jamie has always loved moving. As a little kid, his two older brothers would play music—mostly hip-hop and Beyoncé—and teach him dance moves. Jamie often put on shows at family gatherings, so his mom figured he’d enjoy dance classes. But while he liked learning ballet, it was hard being the only boy in class. “Sometimes I felt lonely,” he says. “I felt like the teachers were focusing more on the girls and didn’t take me seriously.” 

A few months after he saw the life-changing performance of Don Quixote, he switched to an all-boys class at Houston Ballet Academy. It was eye-opening. “I was like, ‘Oh my goodness, there are other boys like me,’” says Jamie. He started learning the special techniques required to be a male dancer. 

In most ballets, men and women perform different steps. Male dancers perform higher jumps and more athletic turns. They also lift the female dancers, which requires incredible strength. 

At Houston Ballet Academy, Jamie got the chance to interact with professional company dancers. “They made me want to keep working,” he says. It was also the first time Jamie saw male dancers who were Black, like him. Getting to know older dancers of color helped him see the career possibilities available down the road. 

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As a dancer, Jamie needs to be both strong and flexible.

Being Bold

While Jamie was thriving in ballet, his life at school was becoming difficult. Even though Jamie had tremendous athleticism, other boys would make fun of him and exclude him from their soccer games during recess. “I was like, ‘Guys, I can do this,’ but nobody wanted me,” says Jamie. “It was like they thought I’d just go leap and play in the flowers.” 

By seventh grade, the teasing had turned into bullying. On a group chat, a bunch of other boys called him nasty names and made mean comments about photos of him. Finally, it became too much. “It got to a point where I was putting so much pressure on myself to be good at dance and to fit in at school,” he says. He began experiencing depression and anxiety, and even thought about ending his life.

With his parents’ support, Jamie left his school for an online homeschooling program, which also let him focus more fully on dance. This year, he entered the professional division at Houston Ballet Academy. Now he dances from 9 a.m. until 4 p.m. each day, then does schoolwork in the evenings. 

Photography by MICHAEL STARGHILL

Jamie loves the feeling of being onstage.

Inspiring Others

When he’s not dancing or studying, Jamie is an assistant teacher for the young boys’ class at the Academy. A number of his students are boys of color, and he’s thrilled to be able to provide them with a role model who looks like them. 

In his free time, he volunteers with an organization for Black kids and hangs out with his family. He’s also studying piano. He hopes to be a professional dancer in the future and also pursue choreography.

Jamie hopes that more boys can go into dance without feeling any shame. He wants people to know that there’s not just one kind of boy who likes to dance. “My friends at ballet are all unique,” he says. “Some are really into soccer and football, some play guitar.” 

As for Jamie, he finally feels the freedom to completely be himself—both in dance and outside of it. “I’ve found that being courageous and bold and standing out is not something you should hide,” he says. “It’s a wonderful gift.”

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