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Luca, 17, New York (left); Jeremiah, 18, Tennessee (center); Grace, 17, New York (right)

Why We Stay Sober

Despite what you might think, the majority of teens don’t drink, smoke, or use drugs. Read three teens’ reasons for saying no.

If you watch shows about teens, you’re probably familiar with party scenes where all the characters are drinking, smoking pot, or using other drugs. Based on these shows, you might think all your peers often get high or drunk. 

As it turns out, that’s not true. Teen alcohol use in the U.S. is on the decline. In fact, the majority of teens don’t vape or use any type of drugs. According to a 2023 survey by the National Institutes of Health, most teens say they are abstaining from using marijuana, alcohol, or nicotine.

That’s good news, because drugs and alcohol are especially dangerous for teens. Research shows that the earlier you start using illegal substances, the more likely you are to develop a dependence on them. Every year you wait to use drugs or alcohol reduces your chance of developing an addiction.

If you do stay sober, you’ll be in good company. Read on to hear from teens who are saying no to drugs and alcohol—and their advice for staying sober. 

"I don’t need drugs to cope." — Luca, 17, New York 

My Story:

The first time I got drunk was in freshman year. I ended up throwing up. I really didn’t like that. For a while, I didn’t drink much at all. But when I started junior year, my life went downhill. Things were really tough at home. I developed an eating disorder. I also started drinking and smoking pot. 

At first, I just drank and smoked when I was spending time with other people. But after a while, I also started drinking and smoking when I was alone. I couldn’t deal with my emotions, and pot and alcohol made me feel numb and disconnected.

Eventually, I got treatment for my eating disorder and learned to handle my emotions. There wasn’t a magical “aha” moment. I just started drinking and smoking less, until I stopped completely. I realized I don’t need drugs to cope with my problems.

I’ve stopped hanging out with a lot of the friends I used to smoke and drink with because we don’t have as much in common anymore. But I have other good friends now, and a lot of them are non-users.

My Advice: 

If you quit drinking and smoking, you might lose touch with the crew you were doing that with. But you’ll make other friends too.  

“Drug use caused instability in my family.” — Jeremiah, 18, Tennessee 

Jeremiah gets a natural high from running.

My Story:

I’m a non-user, but substance abuse has affected me my whole life. My biological parents used drugs and wound up being unable to take care of me. A local couple took me in. But they also struggled with drug use. Eventually, their use became frequent and dangerous. Child services removed me from the home.

For years, I had to move around from relative to relative. My life became very unstable. Over time my parents wanted me back, but I was never able to live with them again. It was hard to see them hurting, unable to have me back.

I was 15 the first time anyone offered me weed. I was working part-time at a fast-food place, and my co-workers would regularly show up to work high. They were older than me, and they offered to leave edibles in my car in exchange for money.

I think they wanted to be social and share with me, but I also think they viewed me as the “good kid” and wanted to pressure me to “lighten up.” Sometimes I worried about hurting their feelings, but I always turned them down.

Substance use has forever altered my relationship with parental figures. It’s affected my ability to love and trust people, and to have stability in my life. I’ve seen firsthand how one person’s drug use ends up having an impact on their whole family. So I don’t want to mess with any substances myself.

My Advice: 

If you say no when someone offers you drugs or alcohol, it might feel like you’re rejecting something. But really, you’re accepting a chance at a better future. You’re actually doing something positive for yourself. 

"I look for other sober people to spend time with." — Grace, 17, New York

My Story:

I haven’t tried drugs or alcohol. To be honest, sometimes I feel tempted to drink at parties. It can be easy to feel left out. But a lot of my friends are non-users too, so at parties, I’ll look for them or for other sober people to spend time with. That makes it easier.

I know people in my school who use drugs regularly, and it’s really altered their lives and changed their personalities. I know students who are very dependent on marijuana, and they can’t go to school without using in the morning. That kind of dependency is scary to me, especially since we’re still so young. 

I’ve seen fights break out between students who get aggressive after smoking weed. Sometimes people fall asleep in class when they’re high. I’ve also seen people take advantage of students who are high to make them do stupid things. 

One time, a kid in my class was super high, and his friends dared him to take off his shirt and jump out the window. They recorded it and sent the video to everyone. Fortunately, he didn’t get hurt. But everyone thought it was a dumb stunt to pull. He must have been so embarrassed after that. 

When I think of all the possible consequences, it doesn’t feel that hard to resist the pressure to try drinking or smoking. 

My Advice:

Dealing with a little bit of FOMO is better than having to pay the price later for bad stuff that might happen under the influence. 

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