Your friend Amanda posts a cute photo of herself. When you go to like it, you notice that a classmate of yours, Paul, left an inappropriate comment about Amanda’s body. Amanda has shut down Paul’s advances before, but he doesn’t seem to be getting the message. You should:
A) Reach out to Amanda to make sure she’s OK.
B) Report the comments as harassment through the app.
C) Reply to Paul’s comment, “That’s gross, knock it off.”
D) Ask Amanda if she wants your help talking to an adult at school about Paul’s behavior.
Your best move: Any of the above but definitely A. Sexual harassment often takes the form of unwanted messages and comments online, so if you think Amanda’s feeling uncomfortable, it’s worth checking in. You can take things a step further by calling out inappropriate behavior, reporting comments, or involving a trusted adult who can help you intervene. “A bystander who wants to be an upstander should do what is most comfortable for them,” says Sameer Hinduja, a cyberbullying and social media expert. “But no matter what, people who witness cyberbullying should check in with the target and offer to help.”