You know the feeling.
A friend seems angry—maybe they saw you across the room joking around with their boyfriend—and now they refuse to speak to you. In your mind, you did nothing wrong. You’re surprised and hurt, but mostly you’re just super confused. Can’t they see this is really no big deal?
Maybe not. Whether you realize it or not, your actions can have totally inadvertent consequences, and until someone creates an app that can play Relationship Referee, it can be hard for two angry people to figure out who’s at fault. So we asked a few impartial experts to weigh in on some of your most complicated dramas and answer once and for all: Are you the jerk?